Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Tiwonge Chimbalanga and Steven Monjeza Pardoned, Released

Malawi’s President has done the right thing in pardoning and releasing Tiwonge Chimbalanga and Steven Monjeza, but did the wrong thing in reinforcing the criminalization of gay and lesbian love.

In Washington, White House spokesman Robert Gibbs also praised the move, urging an end to "the persecution and criminalization" of sexual orientation and gender identity.

Gibbs is right to say that, but the USA also has a long way to go in marriage equality and sexual freedom.

Malawi is among 37 African countries with anti-gay laws.

In Senegal, police have rounded up men suspected of being homosexual and beaten them, and a mob last year pulled the corpse of a gay man from his grave, spat on it and dumped it at the home of his elderly parents.

In Zimbabwe this month, two employees of a gay organization spent six days in jail on allegations of possessing indecent material and insulting President Robert Mugabe, an outspoken critic of homosexuality.

In Uganda, a proposed law would impose the death penalty for some gays.

Even in South Africa, the only African country that recognizes gay rights, lesbians have been gang-raped.

It is all atrocious. People should be allowed to love others and marry others without others deciding for them, and they should be protected from rape and assault.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Sex or Love?

Steph asks if polyamory is about sex or love.

My answer is...yes. As I understand it, it can be about love, but it can also be about sex. It can be about both.

We should not tell consenting adults that that they can’t love one another, or can’t have sex with one another, but nor should we tell them that they have to have sex with each other if they love each other, or that they have to love each other if they have sex with each other. How people love each other, and how they express that love for each other, is not something for those outside the relationship to attempt to measure, limit, or force.