To me, it's evident that lots of people seek polyamory. How many times have you experienced or heard of someone being cheated on? It's often the basis for many divorces too. With polyamory, you have the option of discussing the possibility of another relationship.
Our laws and cultural prejudices put a straightjacket on people. People think they have to find one, unrelated person of the opposite sex to marry, and that they may only have sex with that one person for the rest of their life. That might work for some people, but it doesn’t work for a lot of people, as is abundantly evident. When someone who is gay, lesbian, bisexual, polyamorous, or experiencing GSA or FSA (meaning they are attracted to a close relative), but they try to fit into the narrow mold, they lie to themselves and the person they marry, and quite often this brings about many problems.
By adopting full marriage equality, we’ll free people up to be open, honest, and happy, and people who really want monogamy can still choose to have it. Everyone wins.
Can it really work? From experience, yes it can. But, you have to be true to the values of polyamory:
fidelity and loyalty
trust, honesty, dignity, and respect
mutual support
communication and negotiation
non-possessiveness
Doesn’t that sound like a better than denial and cheating and lying and fighting?
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