Love on turns

Love, Love, and lots of love. However, how do you really define true love? In the bible, it says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects always trusts, always hopes, and always preserves.”1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is composed on poems and songs like… Love moves in mysterious ways it is always so surprising. When love appears over the horizon, I will love you for the rest of my days but still, it is a mystery how you ever came to me which only proves love moves in mysterious ways! However, how can you define true love when you are hurting, stressed, bored, and sick or your partner is dying?

 

There is a real true to life story of a couple here in our country. The couple has been married for three years.Rodel is a very good and caring husband. He has been excellent in providing the financial needs of his family. While Elena was an accountant and has been a loving and most caring wife as she could be. They were blessed with a two-year-old son named Matthew. The family was indeed very happy and near to having a perfect family. After a year, Elena became pregnant again. Everyone was so happy to welcome another child to be a part of their loving family. All was preparing for his birth.

 

When baby Joshua came, it was the same time that Elena was paralyzed. When she gave birth there have been an over dosage of the anesthesia that was given to her. She was paralyzed totally and for the rest of her life she would be on a wheel chair. Depression sets in and questions cannot stop to come. They are indeed a perfect family before, happy and contented until this trial came.Rodel could not imagine seeing Elena on the wheel chair. The sweet and jolly wife that was always there to greet her with a smile. Now Elena could just stare at him and can’t talk.Rodel would always cry on the knees of his wife and embrace her. Elena can just cry and cannot even utter a word.

 

Rodel and Elena until now are still happy and accepted the trial in there life.Rodel decided to stay and take care of Elena for a lifetime. In times, that Elena needed her he has always been there in happy times and rough times Rodel has always been there to comfort her.

For me, love can be found and felt in different ways but true love is rare and should be treasured. I love my wife and my children unconditionally and it will always be. True love takes time; it is not felt overtime in a day. It is made with happy times and rough times as the pillars of that love. It is true love when you learn to love unconditionally without expecting it in return. How about you when you are in this situation are you willing to go through what your partner is going or will you give up and leave her in despair?

A simple prayer can protect your family!

I am an engineer and I am one of the officers in an international company here in our country. I have the wonderful opportunity to travel and speak to seminars or forums in our country and some parts of the world. I would have to leave my wife and two kids in our apartment for two weeks because of work. There is no option for us but to pray throughout the days that I am gone. One of my fears is to leave them but I learned to lift them up to the Lord’s guidance and care.

At no time, have my prayers ever been more urgent than when I was awakened one morning by a call from my wife. We were just four years married then, I was assigned to supervise a project in Cebu and I have to leave my two-month pregnant wife alone. All of our relatives where in the province and she said it was ok for me to leave her for a few days. The next morning my wife was crying over the phone asking me if I could go home. She was having bleeding and she said she was all cold and shaking. She did not went to work that time because she could not even stand on her own. She was crying and she did not know what to do. My wife was very frightened and always talking about our baby. I called my in-laws but they have to travel six hours by land and what we need was an immediate help. My wife called her officemate in the bank and asks if she could accompany her in the hospital. I scheduled for a flight immediately but it will take six hours travelling time. That was one of the most frightening experience for me because I did not know the condition of my wife and I was far away when she needed my help. My only option was to pray and cry to God for help and for her safety.

She was rushed to the hospital and when I arrived my wife was inside the delivery room. The doctor said that they were sorry because they could not save the baby. My wife had miscarriage and luckily, she was rushed to the hospital at the proper time. She had a near to death experience because some part of her blood was already poisoned. Without our knowledge, our baby has not been breathing in my wife’s womb for days. When my wife was already inside our room, I cried and embraced her. That was the most loved and valuable moment that I have experienced in our early marriage. We were indeed sad that our baby had to go but we believe God has a purpose for everything and that He will give our baby back to us. Now, we have two kids and remembering that day would just give us a smile that even though I am far from my family I will always be assured that God will guide them always!

The beauty inside her

My eldest child just graduated from pre-school last week and she was the first in her class. Before we went to her graduation ceremony, my child would be a lot of concerned about the way she looks. She would always ask, “Daddy am I beautiful, honestly do I look good?” I would smile back and say, “You’re the most beautiful girl in my life and you will always be.” At her young age, telling her that she is beautiful always brings a twinkle to her eyes.

This attitude of a woman I tell you does not change from her age. A young or an older woman loves to hear that she is beautiful especially from her husband. Your love can literally make your wife beautiful. How could you expect your wife to be beautiful if she always hear rude words and treats her in an ill-mannered way? Husbands should learn to appreciate the love and service that a wife gives. She does not ask for money in return of her efforts so at least a little attention from a husband will not matter much. Your wife is like a flower that needs water to grow and you as a man of her life are the water that would nourish and give her a reason to grow beautiful. Without your love and attention, your wife can dry up and loose the beauty inside her.

Your wife is beautiful, regardless what her age is. I know it personally because man got attracted first to the physical attributes of a woman and character comes at the latter part. You married her because there is beauty inside her in some way. If there, have been hurts in the past that hinders you in looking at the beauty of your wife inside and out, forgive and try to focus on the positives. Stop focusing on her negative attitudes and start to look at the positive things that your wife has.

If you like to see the beauty inside her it is up to you! Start now by appreciating what she is doing, saying I love you or a smile every time you go home even though you’re tired at work, hugging her and saying I thank God that He has given me a wonderful wife and a secret don’t stop courting your wife. Courtship must not stop after marriage it should be a lifetime process. Do this and your wife would be beautiful and glowing inside and out I guarantee that!

Love moves in mysterious ways

I just watched a television drama last night MMK18 in our favorite movie station. Watching our favorite shows is one of our bonding moments and rarely will you find both of us in tears. I am a man but I easily get hooked into the story if it is about family issues. The story moved both of us and touched our hearts. Let me just give you a summary of the story.

The story was focused on the story of a young woman who went through the challenges of life being a deaf person. She had an angelic voice and she loves to sing and play the piano. In her early years, she would join choirs and singing was her passion in life. She had this flu which she did not consult her doctor because of financial problems. After a while, she started not to hear her classmates and neighborhood voices. She consulted the doctor and she was not sick of an ordinary flu it was a viral infection that damaged her ears. One of her doctor recommendation is to stay away from music and loud tunes. She was very depressed then because she could not play the piano anymore and attend her choir.

To cut the story short in her depression she met a person who is also into singing in a choir and playing the piano. They had a relationship regardless of what had happened. Love moves in mysterious ways and love moves over the horizons indeed. She could not accept him at first because she could not believe a person loving her even though she is deaf. The person said, “Love comes from the heart not from your ears and whatever the problem is what’s important is my love for you.”In her depression, the person turned to be her inspiration to sing again and play the piano from her heart. Moreover, even though she could not hear she learned to look at the positives of life and to let her story inspire other people.

Love moves in mysterious ways and God has a way for everything. In marriage, love covers wounds and imperfections. In marriage or in any relationship when sacrifices are made as an act of love it is not counted as a sacrifice but an opportunity to let go of the humane part in us. Like in the story, love covers all imperfections and it includes accepting your spouse strengths and weaknesses.

“Marriage is great when two people enter into it with a joint dedication to keep it strong no matter what!” I believe God destined people to be with each other regardless of whatever happened because He has a purpose and a reason for everything. How about you when was the last time you hugged your partner and said, “I love you” no matter what?

Treat her right!

Hello, it is evening here in our country and I am here sitting trying to relax and recall the activities of this day. I went home tired, hungry and a bit rude to my wife. I said, “Where’s the spoon, fork and will you give me a glass of water, I’m terribly hungry will you give it fast”. My children followed me and demanded the same things to my wife. Focused on my own exhausted day, without knowing I offended my wife. My wife talked to me and said, “Will you pls. be kind enough I am your wife and a mother I am not your waitress. Yes, I can give you all my service because I love you but please don’t try again to rush me in doing things pls. treat me right.” My wife and I talked and settled things right there. I assured her that I love her and I did not mean to hurt her. It was not just an eye opener for me it was an eyes wide shut experience for me.

Let us be honest friends if you did not for once have done this to your wife probably your just denying it! I read a book before about women attitudes to their spouse and I would like to tell you women do not usually express their emotions to their husbands. Your wife does not want to be your mother that sets rules for you to follow. It will surely give her grounds to disrespect you. Your wife does not want to be your little sister that follows your commands like a big brother or worst your wife does not want to be your maid that follows your every command. It will make her feel that you have lost love for her.

“My friends learn to appreciate your wife. Treat her right and I guarantee you she will be your greatest treasure for a lifetime! “

A woman in your life

My friends just e-mailed me this poem this morning. It will inspire and disturb you if you are in a relationship or a married man. Therefore, it will be nice if you can read it all for you to be inspired and learn to appreciate the woman in your life. God bless you!

Tomorrow you may marry a woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook
food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,
and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,
a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply
Because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this......

Please appreciate "HER" I hope you will do.....

A Purpose Driven Life

I have received an e-mail from a friend months ago and this message have really touched my married life. Reading through this message repeatedly gives me still tears to my eyes. I read Christian books and one of my favorite books is Purpose Driven Life. The author is Rick Warren; the book is full of encouragement and taking on the positive prospective in life. Read his e-mail and I guarantee you will be touched and moved!

You will enjoy the new insights that Rick Warren has, with his wife now having cancer and him having ‘wealth’ from the book sales. This is an absolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren, ‘Purpose Driven Life ‘ author and pastor ofSaddleback Church in California.

In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren, Rick said:
People ask me, What is the purpose of life?
And I respond: In a nutshell, life is preparation for eternity.. We were not made to last forever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.

One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body–but not the end of me.
I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillions of years in eternity. This is the warm-up act – the dress rehearsal. God wants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity..

We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, life isn’t going to make sense.
Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you’re just coming out of one, or you’re getting ready to go into another one.
The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character than your comfort; God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy.

We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that’s not the goal of life. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.
This past year has been the greatest year of my life but also the toughest, with my wife, Kay, getting cancer.
I used to think that life was hills and valleys – you go through a dark time, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth. I don’t believe that anymore.

Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it’s kind of like two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have something good and something bad in your life.
No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something bad that needs to be worked on.
And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always something good you can thank God for.
You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on your problems:
If you focus on your problems, you’re going into self-centeredness, which is my problem, my issues, my pain.’ But one of the easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourself and onto God and others.

We discovered quickly that in spite of the prayers of hundreds of thousands of people, God was not going to heal Kay or make it easy for her- It has been very difficult for her, and yet God has strengthened her character, given her a ministry of helping other people, given her a testimony, drawn her closer to Him and to people.

You have to learn to deal with both the good and the bad of life.
Actually, sometimes learning to deal with the good is harder. For instance, this past year, all of a sudden, when the book sold 15 million copies, it made me instantly very wealthy.
It also brought a lot of notoriety that I had never had to deal with before. I don’t think God gives you money or notoriety for your own ego or for you to live a life of ease..

So I began to ask God what He wanted me to do with this money, notoriety and influence. He gave me two different passages that helped me decide what to do, II Corinthians 9 and Psalm 72.
First, in spite of all the money coming in, we would not change our lifestyle one bit.. We made no major purchases.
Second, about midway through last year, I stopped taking a salary from the church.

Third, we set up foundations to fund an initiative we call The Peace Plan to plant churches, equip leaders, assist the poor, care for the sick, and educate the next generation.

Fourth, I added up all that the church had paid me in the 24 years since I started the church, and I gave it all back. It was liberating to be able to serve God for free.

We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions? Popularity?
Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Or am I going to be driven by God’s purposes (for my life)?

When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God, if I don’t get anything else done today, I want to know You more and love You better. God didn’t put me on earth just to fulfill a to-do list. He’s more interested in what I am than what I do.
That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.

Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD..

If you do not pass it on, nothing will happen. But it will just be nice to pass it on to a friend....just like I have done.

Walking for Jesus!
Say a prayer, and then pass Him on to bless others. Our assignment is to love and spread the gospel throughout the world.

Have a blessed day and touch somebody’s life today! I just did.

Appreciating your wife's motherhood

I just got my paycheck and it was a relief to accept payments for your efforts. A woman being a wife and a mother does not know these things. She is not paid for her efforts, no sick and vacation leaves and always on overtime. Before I got married, I just wondered how woman could survive being a mother and a wife without being paid for their efforts. Wives have a greater role in doing household chores, taking care of kids, and doing it every day can be stressful and exhausting. However, if a woman gives appropriate care and time to her husband and children she will get her reward for her life- giving labor of love.

When I got married, it is then when I learned how to appreciate wives and mothers most especially. My wife would do the household chores; take care of our children, which she is good. We had two maids before but they cannot meet our demands especially in taking good care of our baby. She resigned from her job and decided to be a full-time homemaker so she can focus her attention to our family. At first, it was quite hard because she had been working from the time she graduated. However, she realized that although she is not paid for her efforts she got the benefits of having my love and loyalty, out-pouring love of our children and a more peaceful and smooth marriage.

Saying simple things like “I love you”, “You look wonderful” or a simple “I love the food you cooked” can make your wife feel important. To show my appreciation, during Sundays I would do cooking and play with my kids. My wife would have her time to rest for a while and enjoy her moment. She would often read her favorite books and do researches in the internet. So, do not be surprised if one day she will be joining me to be one of the authors in my blog. Spouses need to learn how to bring back their love language. If you cannot think of something, then go back to the first cherished day you met your wife. The ways you did when you courted her and how did you get her to say yes to marry you.

Your wife is a gift from God and if you make her feel important, significant and admired, she will prove to be your most valuable asset for a lifetime!

Gaining respect

Good Morning! Just in time for a cup of tea! I have just finished reading my bible and I am more than happy to share to you my thoughts about this bible verse.
“However each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33) I presume that one way or the other once in our married life we have been disrespectful to our partner.

Words like You are late always late when will you ever change! Alternatively, nagging your husband why he came home late, does this ring a bell? Of course, you must have been dishonest to yourself if for once you have not done that. “IT’S NOT WHAT YOU SAY; IT’S HOW YOU SAY IT.”

A man usually gives comfort to his family but a rude man can be terrifying and brings fear to his wife and children. A man’s voice has the power to build a home, generate a happy marriage or has the power to ruin and destroy a home it. While a woman must not humiliate his husband no matter how she thinks, he deserves it. Loss of love comes after a loss of respect and the price is too high and serious to a man, than wives realize. My wife and I had known couples who have separated ways because of indiscriminate anger that became the root of bitterness and disrespectfulness of both or one of the partners involved. Shouting in front of many people totally humiliates a person and it is the lowest form of disrespectfulness. Yes guys it is a huge No for a relationship.

If this has already happened to you, and you know you have shown disrespect to your partner,

•Pray and confess it to God today. Forgive if your spouse has done it to you.

•Take action and STOP settling on the negatives. Let your love grow try to search for the positives and reasons on why you married that person in the first place.

•Keep the tone of your voice under control; it is choice a decision you have to make!

•Be slow to speak. Think first. If you have, words that can humiliate that person it would be better not tell him, but if your words are true, enough even though it will hurt that person speak it with love and respect.

•Remember we are created differently so each and one of us has flaws!

•One of our marriage vows is to honor our spouse. In addition, honor means respect and always giving a kind response and controlling the tone of your voice is one of the symbols of respect.

•Moreover, for the end time “IT’S NOT WHAT YOU SAY, IT’S HOW YOU SAY IT.”

A couples affection

It is late in the evening and I am sitting in my favorite chair wondering what to share to you guys! One of my passions is giving advices to marriage couples but I am not a perfect husband I just want to share our marriage journey to be a learning experience especially to troubled couples out there.

The song “It’s late in the evening wondering what clothes to wear, she puts on her make-up…and I said yes you look wonderful tonight!”Bring back memories. I remember in our early marriage years when I lack showing affection to my wife. I do not usually say positive things and verbally say thank you to my wife. It was not because I did not love my wife but because I have not grown to be affectionate in our family. I belong to a family that was not verbally and physically affectionate at all. It was a major adjustment to me because my wife grew in an affectionate family so one of her expectations is to feel the same way. One time my wife opened up to me about the issue I would try to change, but soon things went back to the way it has been.

It is widely known that women usually look forward to spending time together and being in the center of his husbands’ attention. Most men after marriage focus more on their work because a successful job adds to their identity. To solve this difference my wife and I had a serious conversation about this issue. Marriage works in both ways and in this area is where I needed to change.” Now, the first thing I do every time I go home is to kiss and hug my wife,” and my wife would always give me a smile and says that her day was complete because of just a simple hug. I did not do this just because she wants me to do so but it turned to be one of my expressions of love and affection to her.

Try to discover or ask your spouse, which they find romantic, or actions that they find affection. Some people love to hear words like “I love you”, a warm embrace others like giving flowers, chocolates and cards. Find ways where your wife would respond and do it not just to please her but do it as an act of love for your wife.
How about you when was the last time you have said, “You look wonderful tonight!”