"Marriage takes two to tango"

“Marriage takes two to tango!" This quote most probably is the frequently used quotes about marriage. It did not say one it says two, which means both of the couple, must do everything to have their marriage work. Many couples lead to broken homes because each of the couples insists that it is one’s fault or the other. Having lack of communication and letting anger and bitterness sink in is the core of broken relationships!

My wife and I have been married for 10 years and until now; experiencing fights and irritations have been normal day-to-day happenings for us. There are times when our love for each other is strong and passionate. However, there are times when you begin to ask your love for your spouse or your spouse love for you. Increasing and doing same things repeatedly in our relationship becomes tiring and boring. The old courtship romance in our marriage was gone; our love was like a candle that slowly melts its wax, and losses light!

If you are on this stage it is normal, every couple is undergoing what we call marriage blues! Set a time for you and your wife to sit and talk about these differences without having to tone up voices and kids playing around. You can talk when your kids are not around or when the kids are sleeping. Speak to each other as a point to inform your negative feelings about a certain issue remember both of you are created not in the same way so each of you need to adjust and let’s face it guys we are people no one is perfect.

One of the secrets I do is to always hug my wife and tell her that I love her! This simple touch gestures believe me can regenerate your love communication and romance. Being verbal saying thank you and expressing appreciation, as a simple the food you cooked was great will surely give your wife a smile! Make her feel important, most woman love to hear pleasant words, a verbal appreciation for their work or positive attitude or a simple I love you text message can rekindle the courtship romance in your marriage. Of course, this method will work in both ways. Each spouse needs to learn how to bring back the love language. If you cannot think of something then go back to the first cherished day you met your wife. The ways you did when you courted her and how did you get her to say yes to marry you.

Seeing my kids growing and my wife and I growing old I couldn’t think of being separated just because of this irritations or this have you lost this lovely feeling issues. I’d rather stooped down my pride, talk our differences and patch up things with my wife, have quality time with my kids rather than being separated and having my own way and to see my children suffer in the long run!